Episode 40: Infertility

Join Christy as she discuss issues of infertility with Tresa, Colleen and Ashley. You can join their facebook group at here.


13 thoughts on “Episode 40: Infertility

  1. I’m proud to be married to a brave girl like Ashley.

    And hearing all these women facing something that many consider “uncomfortable” as infertility gives me a lot of hope that we can begin to have the conversations and compassion that is needed for something as sensitive as this.

    Well done, all of you – this is a hard conversation to have, and it’s great to hear the different voices and stories that are out there.

  2. I’m just a 19 year old college student nowhere close to getting married or having kids, but I loved this podcast. It brought tears to my eyes. Every one of these women on the podcast are brave and wonderful. Thank you for this.

  3. Thank you for talking about this subject. I can relate to much of what was talked about and it helped me to process some of my own feelings. I have an amazing ten year old son, but we weren’t able to have any other children. There have been times that I’ve been very heartbroken about that, and worried about how it would impact my son to be an only child. I’ve watched my brother and his wife have four children with very little effort. She’s overwhelmed by her excessive fertility, and I actually appreciated that you mentioned that in your podcast…we all have different things that we struggle with and it’s sometimes difficult to understand someone else’s burden.

    I’ve gone through many phases over the years and a huge span of emotions. I’ve very much wanted more children, and other times been content and happy with one. I’ve been hopeful that I might be pregnant, and at the same time terrified that I might be pregnant. I’ve mourned the fact that I didn’t take my education more seriously and now I’m a forty year old woman back in school trying to figure out what I want to be when I grow up. I’ve felt out of place in the church as women around me have baby after baby after baby. I’ve been grateful that I don’t have several toddlers running around because I don’t know if I could handle that. I’ve probably said the wrong thing to many people. I’ve felt guilty about not pursuing adoption. I sometimes feel like I’ve disappointed my husband.

    I guess in this rambling comment I just wanted to thank you for the topics you touched on, and for being honest. Thank you for the ‘rant’ about what NOT to say to someone who is experiencing infertility. Thank you for sharing your stories. I hope that even people who have no experience with infertility will listen to this, just to gain some understanding about this topic.

  4. Thank you for this wonderful podcast. I had talked to Dan Wotherspoon last year about doing a podcast with him on this topic, and he said it was in the works on FMH, so I am very happy to see it come to fruition.

    My story is very similar to Tiffany’s. My husband and I had wanted a large family, but that was not in the cards for us. In the beginning, I was able to get pregnant easily. My first ended in a miscarriage, and the second is my wonderful, now 8 year old boy. After my son was born, I was never able to get pregnant again. Test after test showed no apparent reasons why we were not able to get pregnant. On paper, we were as fertile as a couple of bunnies.

    The pain of experiencing infertility was unimaginable. It was my greatest fear come true. I cursed God, while at the same time praying for Him to heal me. I felt so lost and confused. And to add insult to injury, I was in the RS Presidency in a young family ward. At one point, I counted all the visibly pregnant women in RS one Sunday – 13. Plus I knew of at least 5 others in the Primary and YW. I just didn’t want to go to church anymore.

    I love how you mentioned about Motherhood and Priesthood NOT being synonymous. I had the opposite message for so long. I knew that a man who was found unworthy could have his Priesthood taken away. So if Motherhood and Priesthood were synonymous, and I was not able to have more children, then that meant I was unworthy. It took me YEARS to see this differently.

    Now, my little family is in a very comfortable place. We have found many reasons to have joy in having an only child. Both my husband and I have very successful careers, and neither of us have any desire to increase our family. It wasn’t easy coming to this place, but now that we are hear, we couldn’t be happier!

  5. I can’t begin to put ito words how much this podcast meant to me. To hear women of my same faith say words that have come out of my mouth, thoughts I have felt guilty for having, to know that there are other women out there who FEEL THE SAME way was so empowering and comforting. Thank you, thank you, thank you for the willingness to share. I have joined the groups, I have listened to this several times and shared it. Thank you.

  6. I share many of the warm sentiments already posted here. I sent this podcast to my brother and sister in law because they have infertility issues. They liked it but were annoyed because every woman on the podcast panel eventually got to have kids. An opportunity was missed by not having a guest who has never and will never have kids due to infertility.

    1. Hi Ty, Thanks for that feedback. In addition to Ashley, I also do not have any children. Though, perhaps having someone on the panel who has come to the end of their journey’s with medical interventions and/or other family building options and has not had success could have been a wonderful perspective to add- as many of us on this panel are still very much in the midst of our journeys. We will definitely consider that feedback should we ever do a follow up on this topic. Thanks again for your thoughts.

  7. I wanted to thank you for this podcast. I struggled with infertility for many years and was so happy you brought up the pain of Mother’s Day in the Church. Even though I now have my children I still can’t sit through that Sunday’s Sacrament meeting. I used to leave in tears and I used to see so many others leave in tears. It is so hard for me even today to hear the talks about how Motherhood is the end all be all and how women are selfish if they aren’t having children. I just show up after the closing song to get my chocolate bar from the Aaronic priesthood. At least I don’t have to sit through the agony of them asking Mothers to stand, then pregnant Mothers etc to get a flower. I only put myself through that once. I pray for the day when a talk is given about infertility from the pulpit and treats it in a knowledgable and respectful manner. Even if it is not on Mother’s Day.

  8. Definitions of infertility differ, with demographers tending to define infertility as childlessness in a population of women of reproductive age, while the epidemiological definition is based on “trying for” or “time to” a pregnancy, generally in a population of women exposed to a probability of conception.;-^..


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