Episode 41: Twelve Common Limiting Beliefs and Emotional Blocks for Mormons


Join Lisa as she and Rebecca from Radiant and Real health, along with Nikki discuss twelve emotional blocks that prevent Mormons from finding peace and wellness. They discuss guilt, shame and other limiting beliefs that many Mormons hold on to.

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7 thoughts on “Episode 41: Twelve Common Limiting Beliefs and Emotional Blocks for Mormons

  1. I really enjoyed this episode and think many of us can relate to these situations. I recognize a codependent relationship I have with my husband and other men in my life. There is a tension between me and my husband because there are things I think he should just do for me because that’s what men should do, right? I feel anxiety about scheduling appointments to get my truck repaired or the tires rotated because – I don’t know why. I want to claim more autonomy and feel like I do really well with much in our marriage, but I also want to depend on him to do things that make me uncomfortable. It’s weird.

  2. Great podcast! I especially related to the discussion on guilt for NOT having children. I’m 29, not struggling with infertility, and I have no immediate plans to get pregnant. I feel immense guilt and cultural pressure, not only because I’m supposed to want a family/it’s my sacred duty to be a mother/etc., but because I have so many friends who would love to get pregnant and can’t.

  3. Thanks for this podcast. I would love to hear more about checked out moms. My mom was one- my memories of her include days of soap opera watching. I feel like I am becoming one. I am so overwhelmed and anxious about everything that I just can’t do anything. How do I let that go? How do I enjoy being actively involved with my kids when I feel so down?

  4. Thanks for this. I could have written that letter myself with a few minor adjustments. Suffice it to say I am lost and sad and ashamed.

  5. Thank you for this podcast. I had such feelings of gratitude after listening to it.

    One of the panelists talks about her faith transition and her belief at the time that her questions were rooted in her lack of spirituality and that if only she could live the gospel more perfectly would she find peace and her “questions would go away and she would have perfect faith.” This made me think of the LGBT BYU It gets Better video http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ym0jXg-hKCI About 4:30ish the students begin talking about how they believed that if they were more righteous and perfectly spiritual that their same sex attraction would be taken from them and they would be able to accept themselves and God would be able to accept them. But believing that they needed to be perfectly spiritual did not help them find peace. They found peace when they asked Heavenly Father if it was ok, and they realized it was. Their same sex attraction wasn’t taken away (nor do I think our questions will be), but they realized that it was ok to Heavenly Father and that he loves them. I think the same is true for those of us who are going through faith transitions and have questions that other saints don’t have. We need not feel guilt or self loathing. We need to realize that Heavenly Father loves us for who we are, questions and all ( I think he likes the questions).

    I hope we can all find peace despite the questions that emerge, and realize we can accept ourselves along with our questions just like God does. We don’t need to increase our personal righteousness as a form of punishment for having questions. Questions are not of the devil.

    Thank you for helping me come to this realization.

  6. Katie, I agree so much with your thoughts! I listened to this podcast and wept for my Lds friend. As a non-Mormon, I have never understood the underlying sorrow and sense of bondage I have felt in her since we met, but this podcast, and the many beliefs within Mormonism that were described, truly helped explain them to me. The requirement to be perfect, or even as your guest said, to be progressing toward progression, places a burden of proof on any woman who accepts the challenge, and enslaves them to a self-focused, unachievable goal. I long for my friend to experience the freedom in believing in the righteousness of Christ rather than her own, and I thank you for the thoughts represented on this podcast as well.

  7. Thank you, I loved this podcast.

    The topic is timely for me. I am taking my first, halting steps towards believing in my own ability to discern truth and God’s will for my life. I’ve spent thirty years trusting everyone else first and myself last. I’ve been commitment-patterened into reading the Book of Mormon again and in this reading I am taking note of, you could say, the source of my most debilitating limiting beliefs. It’s striking. Keeping the commandments = prosperity, guidance, happiness, safety is the unrelenting theme. So naturally, when I’ve experienced a lack of prosperity, a feeling of being lost, a sense of unhappiness, and a violation of safety, my mind instantly assumes I’ve done or am something wrong. If God uses violence and suffering to stir people up to remember Him, anything bad happening must be God trying to communicate something to me, right? I want to move past this way of thinking. Thank you for the help.

    Additionally, I would love to hear more about healing from growing up with a checked-out mother. My mom worked “because she had to” (keep up with the credit cards) but was constantly lamenting her plight (vocalizing a yearning for the traditional gender roles as taught by the Church) leading my to believe that if I could just be a cheapskate SAHM I could really be there for my kids in the way she never was there for me.

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